The result of being compared with other people who were seemingly more beautiful, more talented and smarter was a girl who is insecure, who isn’t sure of what she really wanted and who is striving to be someone else. Her decisions were made for her. She was living a meaningless and purposeless life. She was willing to settle for mediocrity.
There was a span of time when she was following one of her schoolmates from high school on Facebook. She would read about a fairytale wedding, the expensive baby gears, the birthday photo-shoots of a baby girl, the travels to another country, the fruits of a shopping spree, and so on, with loads of pictures. The insecure girl felt really small and discontent. The desire to be in her schoolmate’s designer shoes was too great. Frustrated that it will never happen in this lifetime, she went through the motions of life distracted.
She remembered that she vowed not to compare her children with one another or with others. She realized that she first needed to start with herself. She then turned off the feeds of that schoolmate on Facebook, and started to learn to accept herself and journeyed towards self-confidence in the context of God’s love and acceptance.
First step of that journey is understanding oneself.
According to Dr. Harold J. Sala in his book Winning Your Inner Struggles, “Understanding yourself is a step towards inner peace, and a step towards achieving your unfulfilled ambitions.” Also, “Understanding yourself is the first step towards being a better person, a more effective parent.”
The next step is loving oneself by acceptance of self.
Dr. Sala said that, “If you don’t learn to love yourself, you will never be very successful loving anyone else.” And that, “Self-acceptance in the context of Christian faith results in an inner radiance that comes from the indwelling presence of Christ in a life.”
Say this with me:
I’m a person of great value and worth.
I’m a person whom Jesus loves so I can love myself.
I’m a person who is becoming the person God wants me to be.
I’m me and I wouldn’t want to be anybody else in all the world!
The insecure girl wants to walk in her shoes… in her OWN shoes, that is!