If there was a label for my mothering style…
I don’t know what it is.
You know about the Helicopter mom who always hovers over her children, ready to step in and do things for her kids, to intervene in their affairs, especially in their education, in a detrimental way.
You know the Tiger mom who, according to Urban Dictionary, “is overly strict with her child in order to foster an academically competitive spirit. This form of upbringing is intended to direct a child towards financially successful careers at the potential risk of feeling emotionally unfulfilled and/or socially inept.”
You know the mom deemed as cool or fun who always gives in to her children’s fancies, who hangs out with them and their friends, who knows all the popular kids’ shows, video games and lingo. In short, the mom who tries to be their children’s BFF.
What kind of mom am I?
There are work-out-of-home moms who delegate the care of their children to caretakers and tutors. I don’t think I have seen these moms. Maybe they’d be present at school programs.
There are stay-at-home and work-at-home (business owner) moms who personally bring their children to school, who fetch their kids, who tutor them, who are ready to connect with other moms, who talk to customers on the cellphone.
There are moms who take advantage of the time their kids are in school to work out or go on a food trip.
There are moms who can talk about their little ones nonstop.
There are moms who quietly wait for their children and sometimes listen to other moms talk about their own children nonstop.
There are moms who discipline or punish their children in front of an audience.
There are moms who compare notes and exams of the kids with other moms.
There are moms who talk about other moms.
There are moms who prefer the company of nannies.
There are moms who treat school as a business opportunity.
There are so many kinds of mothers who love in different ways, who only want what’s best for their children.
Which kind of mom am I?
I guess I am a little of some of these moms I mentioned and see in school, moms I notice in family, relatives & friends, moms I read about in articles.
What I do know is that…
I am an imperfect mom, requiring grace & forgiveness, desiring what’s best, good & God-willed for my children, and continuously learning how to be the mom my kids need.
Over to you mothers, what kind of mom are you?