I have children ages six, three and two. Being a mom to these very young children could really be physically and emotionally draining, finding me at wit’s end most of the time. The demands from me seem to never end.
“Mama, get please…”
“Mama, eat please…”
“Mama, come here!”
And, sometimes, when I was about to start eating, that’s when the little ones would ask me to get something or have the need to do number 2. *sighs* My body is not my own anymore as they always want to sit on my lap, lay their heads on the crook of my neck or sleep so close I had to cross my arms or keep them raised before falling asleep. Personal space? What’s that?
Although they are so makulit and cannot do many things for themselves, I prefer them at this stage. I don’t really look forward to them growing up and going to school. I am still making parenting mistakes and need them to forgive me. I am still learning how to be a better mom for them and how to lead them to Jesus Christ.
On social media, I am glad to read recounts of the experiences of moms who also have very young children. I smile at the fact that I am not alone standing between sanity and insanity. I totally get it when they talk of sleep deprivation and just when they seem to cannot give of themselves anymore, they are told, “Mommy, somebody needs you!”
And when moms with very young children question the deeds they do if they are significant at all, one mom said, “Dear mom of littles, this might be the most important thing you do right now.” We are reminded in the book Love and Respect in the Family that:
Parents who feel discouraged can suddenly catch the truth that what they do matters to God; nothing is wasted.
Excerpt From: Emerson Eggerichs (Dr.). “Love & Respect In the Family: The Respect Parents Desire; The Love Children Need.” iBooks.
It’s good to learn from the experiences of other moms. They are the best sources of information and recommendations because they are real people who have tried what works for their families. Also knowing the mistakes that could be avoided would be quite helpful to new moms. In the article 10 Common Mistakes Parents Today Make, building up our children’s character while they are very young, that prepares them for the future is more important than satisfying their short-term wants.
Why should there be a rift between stay-at-home-moms and work-at-home-moms? Each of us know what is the best decision for our own children, not for the children of other moms. Mothering is hard enough without judgement from others and what they call mommy wars. We especially understand what we all go through because we are all mothers – wherever we are, however we mother, whatever our choices are, as this post A Letter from a Working Mother to a Stay-At-Home Mother, and vice versa seems to capture.
Moms with very young children crave for someone to talk with, someone who understands what they’re going through. Moms.popsugar.com suggested 14 Reasons A New Mom Needs A Seasoned Mom Friend and I think the reasons are valid. New moms need wise advice from somebody who has been in that same situation and who won’t compare her kids’ to yours. Being a mom to young children, I have some weird questions that I know only another mom can possibly answer.
These are just a few of the sentiments of moms with very young children. Are you a mom of young kids? What sentiments would you like to share?