Being a mother, I am witnessing firsthand the fallen nature of humans. I see it in my children. When they grab a toy from their sibling’s hands, they display inconsideration. When they complain of not having the toys they want, they show discontentment. When they don’t do simple things for themselves and always ask someone else to get their cup of water, they model laziness. When they voice out that they are better than their peers and that their classmate draws ugly pictures, they speak words of pride. When they do not admit that they have broken daddy’s things and even blame it on their sibling, they are covering up their wrongdoings. All of these are manifestations of a human being’s selfishness.
In his book Love & Respect in the Family, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs said, “Parenting is definitely for adults only.” It is true! How can one child lead another to be good Christians? The gift of proper guidance can only come from responsible parents who want God’s best for their children. As a responsible parent, God has commanded me to train my children.
And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.
In what way shall I train my children? I need God’s wisdom in giving them the gift of guidance. To teach them to live by the Spirit, to keep in step with the Spirit.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.
Then, there’s discipline. One of the difficult aspects of parenting. But, it is necessary, so the children themselves will grow up to be responsible and Christlike adults.
Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.
To love my children is to train them and discipline them. This is my main job.
Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
It’s a very daunting task, I know, but a rewarding one as well.
Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.
One of the best gifts we parents could give our children is the gift of guidance.