Thanks to OMF Literature, I got the book Solo Flight by Grace D. Chong and Francie Castañeda-Lacanilao.
You might be wondering why I, a married person, would read a book about singlehood. Well, I was curious, for one. And also, before I hand this book over to my Christian, single friend (if she haven’t read it already), I wanted to read it first since it was signed and addressed to me. Ha ha!
Who wouldn’t want to soar and be the best at his or her chosen field or calling? Some may do it with a human partner to hold their hands through the journey, while some had to make a solo flight. The book is mostly about Francie’s being single for 50+ years and how God answered her prayers through the years leading up to the arrival of the love of her life. Eight other ladies also shared their stories, with different “endings” and God-led choices.
Truly, different strokes for different folks. In our world where the norm for women is to get married, have children and take care of the family, it is refreshing to see other perspectives and how some choose to be single. For them, definitions of love and family are different. Love doesn’t have to come in the form of a man and family doesn’t have to mean children from your womb. It is a blessing for some to be able to take care of their parents longer and to dote on nephews, nieces, godchildren or students.
One chapter of Solo Flight is dedicated to enumerating thirteen danger signals a single woman must look out for and how these are supported by the Bible. I agree wholeheartedly with danger signal number one: Desiring to feel “complete”. I know that only Jesus could make me complete. I have learned that relying on another human being as the main source of happiness will not work, especially when there are misunderstandings and disagreements between you and that person. This applies to married people, too. When Rix and I have a fight, I am relieved to have God as my anchor for if my happiness depended on my hubby, I would be depressed.
I realized that it is human nature to want something that we do not have. When single, marriage looks quite attractive. Some married people on the other hand, want to back out and think that they could enjoy life without any responsibilities. Solo Flight helped me assess my current situation and opened my eyes to blessings that others yearn to have. I may take the flight with my husband beside me, but I can also trust God to be in control of the circumstances that surround our “plane”.