There are some days I would suddenly miss hanging out with my girl friends or my girl cousins. I would also wonder what it would be like if I had a sister. Maybe I would have an instant friend to bond over coffee with. It’s true that humans, maybe mostly women, have this strong innate feeling to connect with another human, most likely of the same gender. It’s really hard to explain, but although as much as I love talking with my children, I would miss having an adult conversation. Whenever I am alone with my hubby, as much as possible, I talk with him about anything other than our children or home issues.
I think it does my 5-year-old daughter good to let her go and interact with her cousins. It enhances her interpersonal skills to have conversations with them. I hope that next time, she would have meaningful conversations with her little brother and little sister. For now, Elle’s being a good achi by pacifying her shobe whenever I had to go to the bathroom and little Cayla’s crying for me. Or whenever I had to prepare their food and little Cayla’s crying for me.*
If ever Elle would encounter her siblings or her cousins or her classmates or her future friends being sad or feeling a little down, I hope to remind her of this, and to remind myself also:
I haven’t actually tried this with my friends but I HAVE listened and WAS quiet, because actually, I didn’t know what to say to make her feel better. Our little secret. Teehee! I hoped that just being there for her was enough to lift her spirits, though.
Reminiscing moments like this, and of course the times when we were just enjoying each other’s company, made me want to meet up with my friends and talk face to face. Not just commenting and clicking ‘like’ on Facebook.
Yes, I’m craving for reconnection and I look forward to the day we would all get together again. For the meantime, I’ll keep on blogging because I love it, even if I don’t have many readers. I also get to visit other bloggers’ “homes” in cyberspace and make new connections. As Holly Becker of decor8blog.com said, “Use your blog as a catalyst to live your best life.”
*achi – older sister
shobe – younger sister