There are some days I would suddenly miss hanging out with my girl friends or my girl cousins. I would also wonder what it would be like if I had a sister. Maybe I would have an instant friend to bond over coffee with. It’s true that humans, maybe mostly women, have this strong innate feeling to connect with another human, most likely of the same gender. It’s really hard to explain, but although as much as I love talking with my children, I would miss having an adult conversation. Whenever I am alone with my hubby, as much as possible, I talk with him about anything other than our children or home issues.
I think it does my 5-year-old daughter good to let her go and interact with her cousins. It enhances her interpersonal skills to have conversations with them. I hope that next time, she would have meaningful conversations with her little brother and little sister. For now, Elle’s being a good achi by pacifying her shobe whenever I had to go to the bathroom and little Cayla’s crying for me. Or whenever I had to prepare their food and little Cayla’s crying for me.*
If ever Elle would encounter her siblings or her cousins or her classmates or her future friends being sad or feeling a little down, I hope to remind her of this, and to remind myself also:
I haven’t actually tried this with my friends but I HAVE listened and WAS quiet, because actually, I didn’t know what to say to make her feel better. Our little secret. Teehee! I hoped that just being there for her was enough to lift her spirits, though.
Reminiscing moments like this, and of course the times when we were just enjoying each other’s company, made me want to meet up with my friends and talk face to face. Not just commenting and clicking ‘like’ on Facebook.
Yes, I’m craving for reconnection and I look forward to the day we would all get together again. For the meantime, I’ll keep on blogging because I love it, even if I don’t have many readers. I also get to visit other bloggers’ “homes” in cyberspace and make new connections. As Holly Becker of decor8blog.com said, “Use your blog as a catalyst to live your best life.”
*achi – older sister
shobe – younger sister
Nice post.
Sometimes, cheering up someone needs a simple touch. A simple touch that can touch their heart.
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I feel the same. I am craving for friends though I am glad that technology enables us to reconnect every so often. This is a great post, sis!
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Hi sis! Don’t worry, we’re like sisters here in the blogosphere! I love the quotation posted above, that sometimes a hurting friend/sister just needs you to be there and to be hugged. 🙂
Thanks, Louise! Hope to run into you again one of these days. 🙂
it feels good to be able to share adult stories with girlfriends. things you could relate with or laugh together about. i guess it’s healthy to maintain such relationships to keep our sanity. i go out with cousins and lady friends occasionally just to unwind.
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I can relate. I work from home so I usually interact with people in the house, my aunts, uncle and cousin. I welcome a break from the monotony when friends invite for a get-together. I am always present at those events. Kaladkarin! 😀
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Hehe! Yes, as a stay-at-home-mom, that is one of my dilemmas. 🙂
HAHA! I know what you mean… honestly we don’t have the answer all the time so just sitting quietly beside our friends/ sisters is the best support we can give. Love the poem and artwork by the way. 🙂
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First off, I love the new look of your blog. 🙂
Second, yeah, we do need to interact with friends and relatives from time to time. Catching up is a fun thing to do. Hope you’ll get your fix soon. hehehe
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Yes, I hope so!
It feels good to know that I’m not an antagonist to my wife when ever they are having get together with her friends.
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Yes, hubbies should support their wives like that.
Cheers for girl bonding! I think we all have this need sis, and personally, you can always include me in your virtual list of go-to girls. hehe. Just the other night I was able to see a girlfriend for an impromptu movie date. Buti na lang available lang sya. I wasn’t really sad, but I wanted to reconnect too. 🙂
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It’s wonderful that you got to go out with her.
I soo want to re-connect with old friends, too. There are just things the hubby cannot relate to. I crave for the “girl” things like making chika and shopping for hours. I don’t have a sister, but I grew up hanging out with my cousins (I didn’t want to do anything with my brother then. We had intense sibling rivalry and I did not want to do anything with him hehe. When we graduated and stayed in Manila for board exam reviews though, we became very very good friends).
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It’s great things changed for the best between you and your brother.
oh, i love your poem and while reading this i suddenly long for a sister haha…
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That’s true! It happens to alot of moms but I guess, we really need some girl time! Even alone time =)
It is true, sisters are a blessing (but friends and cousins can do the trick if you don’t have any). They know exactly when to talk and when just to listen.
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I love your poem, Cym! And I relate to your post. My sister and I am eleven years apart, so for a long time, it felt as if I was the only girl. But now that she’s older, I discovered how fun it is to have a sister. Like what you said, it’s like having an instant friend and intimate bonding partner.
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