不生气口訣
人生就像一場戲 因为有緣才相聚
相扶到老不容易 是否更該去珍惜
為了小事發脾气 回頭想想又何必
別人生气我不气 气出病來無人替
我若气死誰如意 況且傷神又費力
鄰居親朋不要比 兒孫瑣事由他去
吃苦享乐在一起 神仙羨慕好伴侶
What if I blog in Chinese? Who would read it? I doubt the characters could be displayed in every laptop and computer screen.
Anyway, I just want to share this rhyming verse/poem/creed. It’s about controlling the temper, deciding to choose not to be angry.
In case you cannot read it, here’s an image version of the poem.
Do you want to read it phonetically?
Bù shēngqì kǒujué
Rénshēng jiù xiàng yīchǎng xì yīnwèi yǒuyuán cái xiàng jù Xiāng fú dào lǎo bù róngyì shìfǒu gèng gāi qù zhēnxī Wèile xiǎoshì fā píqì huítóu xiǎng xiǎng yòu hébì Biérén shēngqì wǒ bù qì qì chū bìng lái wúrén tì Wǒ ruò qì sǐ shuí rúyì kuàngqiě shāngshén yòu fèilì Línjū qīnpéng bùyào bǐ érsūn suǒshì yóu tā qù Chīkǔ xiǎnglè zài yīqǐ shénxiān xiànmù hǎo bànlǚ
So, it’s telling us that the formula for avoiding getting angry is:
- valuing the relationships we have, the people with whom we are blessed with because it’s not easy to maintain a long-lasting relationship
- what do we have to gain in getting angry over small matters? who will care if we get sick due to anger?
- anger drains our energy, hurts our soul and is a cause for sickness
- don’t compare ourselves with neighbors, family and friends
- let go of the trivial things (ceemee says: as parents, choose our battles wisely)
- we are together with our loved ones in trials and in happiness so we should be grateful for great companions in life
Do you agree? I think I need to keep these points in mind and always ask myself: Why on earth do I need to explode in anger and hurt my relationships? I should choose not to be angry.
I wish I could still read and understand Chinese. It’s been a long time since I learned. Anyway, I have to continue telling myself that I have to let go of trivial things and to tell myself how much I love my “kids” … It takes a lot of self-temperance.
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I know what you mean.
This is very helpful. However, I find myself getting affected sometimes with some simple things especially if i dislike the person. It is really hard to be blameless at times. And I am working on this attitude…
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“Let go of the trivial things… choose you battles wisely.”
Definitely works for me. Focusing our energy on things we can’t control is a waste of time. Yes, it’s easier said than done. But we should learn to control our impulses and try to think before we explode. Deep-breathing then counting 1-3 is also useful. 🙂
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I agree. Choose your battles wisely. Sometimes we have to let go of the little things that irk us. I wish I could have learned Chinese. I’m 1/4 Chinese. My grandfather was pure Chinese but he died young and his children were not provided for.
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Lovely! I would love to know how to read and speak and write in Chinese. 🙂
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I agree! We should refrain ourselves from getting angry over something small.. 🙂
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I agree, I have been bombarded with a lot of problem recently that makes me angry easily.. good thing I manage to control myself as per the boyfriend’s advise.. 🙂
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I agree. I learned this lesson a long time ago, specially when I used to get mad at the boyfriend a lot. I realized that it was just a waste of energy.
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Great for you, Vera!
” choose our battles wisely”… i love this – it saves us mental acumen, it will help us focus exclusively solely on the main battle haha
these is a great poem, who wrote this?
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I have no idea who wrote it, I just copied it when I was younger. Hehe!
Agree! We should not be angered that easily..
Beautiful. I would keep all those in mind. And oh, I have noticed that parents tend to take their anger out on their kids (saw it on most TV news). Don’t!
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I know, I don’t want to vent my anger on my children.
I always try not to be angry. I try to extend my patience because getting angry will just consume my energy and it’s not with our hearts too. Kaya pateince, patience and I count muna before I speak.
Mommy Maye2
remember one of our trainor consultant shared that he used to control his temper and never get angry for the pasat 10 years. It is hard to start but he did it. Maybe that is one of the reason for having a younger look at his age. hehehe
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