I think that more than hate, one thing that would be detrimental to a relationship or end it altogether, is apathy. Apathy happens when a husband stops showing his wife his appreciation through words and actions and vice versa. Apathy happens when a stay-at-home-mom gets tired of the doing the same things every single day for her family. Apathy happens when a child doesn’t want to talk with his parents for fear of being scolded. Apathy happens when boredom settles in.
I am currently reading Winning Your Inner Struggles by Dr. Harold J. Sala, and I want to share about boredom, which I think happens to many people who are going through life dissatisfied, even if they have the position or material things that others could only wish for. According to Dr. Sala,
Boredom is not only one of the major causes of fatigue, that listless feeling that leaves you tired out constantly, it is also one of the contributing factors to broken homes.
When a married couple start to take each other for granted, when one of them or both of them start to think that a bit of romance is only for the newlyweds & then they stop making each other feel special, when being married for quite some time meant that conversation is dying & then they grow apart while growing tired of each other, then that’s when boredom has broken a home, a relationship.
So, how do we overcome or banish boredom? Dr. Sala recommends these:
- Discover God’s will for your life
- Set some realistic goals for your life and home
- Inject enthusiasm into your work by doing everything for the Lord
- Be sensitive and give some of your time and talent to help someone less fortunate than you
What is the importance of having a spiritual purpose?
A spiritual purpose in life eliminates the boredom that comes to many, it also eliminates the emptiness and weariness that drives men and women to the brink of hopelessness.
Having a purpose in life, knowing why we are here gives our lives direction. Setting goals and objectives that are aligned with the dream God put in our hearts would leave no room for tiredness of living. If we are taking steps closer to our purposeful aspirations, then we will be enthusiastic about what we do towards the will God has for us. More often than not, when we discover the purpose that God has for us, we cannot help but share the fruits of our talents or skills to those who are in need.
Why do we need enthusiasm?
Enthusiasm is the very opposite of boredom. And a spark of enthusiasm will destroy boredom. Life is filled with the commonplace and the mundane.
Banish boredom by injecting life with God’s purpose and meaning every day. It takes an effort to find spiritual purpose in managing the home, in going to work, in studying for exams. But, when we do, what a joyful and meaningful life we would be living!
Colossians 3: 23-24 (NIV)
23 Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, 24 since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.
Speaking of enthusiasm, I am sharing a children’s poem I made, inspired by my eldest daughter Ella. I drew the girl myself, copying one of Ella’s jumpshots. I colored it with watercolor.
May we all be filled with enthusiasm for the work that we have been blessed with. 🙂