It sometimes wears thin.
There are days it runs dry.
And when the spirit of patience has left me, my self-control snaps and I will say or do something I will regret later on. God, in His infinite patience and love, will remind me using scenarios like this:
Elle (to me): I sometimes don’t love you.
Me (heart pierced): Why?
Elle: Because you shout at me and get angry at me.
What a wake-up call! I am so blessed my children are resilient and always forgive me in my weakness, that I feel so unworthy to be their mom. But, this is my season, which I am embracing even when I feel like giving up (though I knew I couldn’t). Learning patience is my lesson, which I am imbibing over and over.
I am glad I found another mom with whom I can relate with. I want to practice patience using her inspiring posts. I need it more than ever with three little human beings to rear. I want to “deliberately focus on being more loving and practice a better way to respond to my children.”, to quote Jayme, the Optimommy.
To not get angry, to not react so quickly to what I’m feeling, and to think first before responding, take conscious efforts day by day. I really should be intentional about it, and about the way I should live my life. I always ask God for wisdom, as Proverbs 19:11 states that wisdom yields patience.
Once, my children were so small and I was patient in feeding them, bathing them, and changing their diapers. But, why does my patience diminish as they grow bigger? It should be the other way around as I cannot expect them to know better, yet. They are still growing and learning. I must always remember their baby scent, their soft skin, the way their eyes look at me innocently and the feel of their head on my shoulder that I love and adore.
Singlemom Reviews says
I admit, there are times that I lost patience, to my boyfriend and to my son. whenever I lost patience to the bf we always end up arguing.. I hope I will get back the patience I have before…
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Rose says
I can’t relate to this post. I am glad I read this because most of the time, my conscience eats me.
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Farida says
I really consider every mom a superwoman. The tasks involved in this responsibility is extensive. I guess it’s human to lose temper but with conscious practice, patience can be improved in time. Great post! š
ceemee says
Thank you! Yes, conscious practice is needed.
Daddy Yashiro says
Well with you’ll going to really test your patience, especially the ages 3 and onwards.
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Rochelle says
This week, I have been struggling with impatience. I easily get mad and irritated. Last night, I commited to Christ that I will be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to get angry.
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ceemee says
I also need that reminder from Christ. Thanks!
January/NailsKolours says
Honestly I’m a very impatient y, but I need to be the opposite for my family. Thanks for sharing this. š
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Jhari says
I get easily irritated with my kids. I don’t like them misbehaving infront of strangers. I let my husband do the talking since his patience is 100% better than mine. Hehehe!
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Olga says
I’ve always considered myself a very patient person – until I had my own kids, that is. I do also find myself short on patience at times and holler at them. Then I am reminded that they are children – my own children – and deserve all the patience and love I can give them. What works for me now is a time-out (for me).
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ceemee says
Yes, I think I need a time-out, too!
Jellybelly says
We do love our children but there will be times that our patience would seem to be at an end. I know I’ve been there. I just try to minimize it in case the makes a lasting mark in my daughter’s memory. Patience, patience, patience, how hard it is to have.
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Pinay R. says
I am a patient person and a very optimistic one! I always believe in patience! But it is hard to teach the kids this virtue!
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Mommy Lexi @ A WAHM's Buggy Life says
I also come to a lot of realizations by reading Optimommy’s blog. Sometimes, I find it hard not to lose my patience especially when my son is being so makulit.
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verna says
This is inspiring.
I know I’m patient, I have always been, but I’m so irascible these days. I feel awful. My daughter never told me she doesn’t love me even at my worst, in fact, she never stops apologizing when I’m mad. Me not talking to her is too much of a punishment for her. I know I’m lucky, but I somehow feel undeserving. I’ll try to be patient more.
Andrea says
patience is the hardest thing to learn but once you mastered it, you can face any challenges in your life…
ceemee says
That’s true! And it’s one of the fruits of the Spirit, so I really need God’s guidance on this one.
reese says
i can relate…there are times that i easily irked
thanks for reminding
great post
Lady Anne says
I love this post Cym. I can relate a lot, I can get so impatient sometimes. I guess I’m lucky to have a very understanding husband. He calls it my tantrums. Well, of course I want to change, for him, for myself and for our kids in the future.
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tyna says
i am not so patient myself. sometimes id like to scream my head off when my kids test my patience. other times im on the brink of spanking them but i remember that i asked God for patience in the first place and this is what i get. i just tell myself to BREATHE. It does help, you know. š
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Ditas says
Hey Cym! I think all parents lose their patience at one point it time and it makes me feel like I’m a bad mother. Thank goodness our kids are forgiving. I also read Optimommy and sometimes when i feel that I’m about to blow my top off when Henry’s very makulit, i stop and ask myself, What would Jayme do? I love her advocacy about positive parenting.
sanna says
motherhood can sometimes cut our ropes.Maybe kids are a gentle reminder for us to keep our patience in check. My daughter is still a baby but I know I will be put to tests once she grows up.
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Mylene says
Reading your post made me feel blessed and thankful that despite the fact that I am not also a perfect mother and my patience also runs out most of the time, I haven’t heard my daughter say that she does not love me. It would really be heart-breaking. It made also realized that I should also pray more for patience and wisdom to raise my kids in love balanced with proper disciplined so they will grow responsible and with Godly-fear and ob
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Vera says
I consider myself pretty patient, but sometimes I find it thinning and so I also pray for more patience. Yes, it takes conscious effort. Good luck to us!
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Daddy Allan says
Thanks for this post. It reminds me that I need to increase my patience in everything. hehehe