When You See Mothers Hold It Together
On Instagram, it might look like some mothers hold it together perfectly. They go traveling with their families to seemingly beautiful locations, they stroll down the mall and calmly shop. Other moms show their followers their fab finds, with their children smiling and looking like they enjoy what their moms bought them.
Some mommies even look like they get enough sleep and they look good & fit. Each lifestyle is different and I’d hate to compare.
But if someone asks them, genuinely asks them, if they’re okay. What do you think they will say?
What they don’t show is the mess on the bed while packing for a trip or the kids’ reluctance at walking from shop to shop. “I’m tired! My feet hurt!” The children might also play with the toy that mom bought for five minutes and then fling it to the side. Thus, adding to the growing clutter of the house.
Listen to this song. Isn’t it like an anthem for moms?
Mothers who are only trying to get through the week, on just a couple or four hours of sleep. Who feel like they’re losing control, of the things they have to do and of their sanity. Mums who cannot get ahead of their to-do list on top of the little seemingly invisible things for everyone’s wellbeing.
I’m just trying to hold my sh|t together
Oh I don’t know what else to try
Pretend I’m in control
But I’m just trying to hold my sh|t together
From the Instagram pictures, we cannot hear the complaints of the children or the moms’ cries of frustration. Most of them hide their tears when they have lost their temper and felt like bad moms.
There were times that they itch to go out and away from the kids’ non stop bickering and tantrums. Like me, I know that they feel like they could seriously go crazy. They’d also be stricken with guilt when they spend long, long nights taking care of their sick children.
What help mothers hold it together?
- The dads, I hope. Their partners in parenting.
- If the father is not around, probably the grandparents or aunties/uncles, relatives or friends, anyone trustworthy who could help out.
- Taking breaks to breathe freely, to unwind and be less uptight. Bathroom breaks or out-of-home me-time breaks are welcome.
- Read God’s Word and find His peace… Along with His strength and His wisdom. Experience Him in everyday life. I think that this is super important.
Romans 15:13 (NIV)
13 May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Romans+15:13&version=NIV
God Helps Mothers Hold It Together
When mothers hold it together, it doesn’t mean they are in full control, they show that they trust in God to give them what they need. At the same time, they are grateful for their husbands and their kids, and their families.
Psalm 121:2 (NIV)
2 My help comes from the Lord,https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm+121:2&version=NIV
the Maker of heaven and earth.
These moms are real and are doing their best, all for the love for their children. They are also loving themselves, just how the Lord loves.
Are you a mom? How do you hold it together?